Does Duality Precede Conflict Resolution?

When I think about what causes "conflict" to occur, I am reminded of the duality that is inherent in our world. For example, duality may be illustrated by day and night, male and female, black and white, positive and negative, front and back, high and low, up and down, sun and moon, summer and winter, and the like. In our "reality" duality is everywhere. Perhaps when we align ourselves too strongly with one of its subsets we are setting ourselves up for inevitable conflict. A key to Conflict Resolution, I think, may be to become educated and flexible.

To illustrate: there are, at long last, some wonderful books on the market that provide ground-breaking insight into the differences between the way that men and women are "wired". They illustrate (and prove) that men and women, with few exceptions, view the world differently because the totality of their physiology is systemically different. This, in turn, creates differing experiential "information intake" between the sexes and that in itself is "processed" by them differently. The microcosm of the macrocosm here, I think, is that on some very basic levels, men and women see, feel, hear and experience some things very differently. Unless one is armed with this information and has taken some time to internalize it, it's easy to see why women don't think men are sensitive enough,and why men think women are too "emotional". Both paradigms are likely platforms for conflict-filled situations . If, however, one understands and appreciates some of the inherent differences between the sexes then perhaps it becomes possible to forestall or minimize the difficult personal exchange. Maybe what's important is education (knowledge) and flexibility (willingness to adjust).

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