Regardless of how good a marriage or relationship is, there is always going to be at least some conflict. Relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring suggests three ways to handle conflict in marriage: compromise, co-exist, and capitulation (known as “The 3 Cs”).
Although similar to the “take it or leave it” ultimatum, it is more understated and less discernible to the uninitiated. Regrettably, it has become a familiar negotiation tactic by some attorneys in mediations. The purpose of this article is to both expose this ploy and discuss certain strategies and techniques that can be used to either prevent it altogether or minimize its consequences.
Teaching kids to deal with conflict effectively and peacefully is perhaps the biggest challenge facing adults today. Children’s disagreements both at home and at school can be noisy, physical and psychologically hurtful. The approach to conflict resolution learned and practised in childhood often stays for life.
Most people don’t want to cause upset by confronting people. But putting up with bad treatment actually harms relationships. Bottling things up causes pressure and leaves you open to the risk of exploding. Confrontation may not be pleasant but it is sometimes necessary. It’s time to start standing up for yourself.
One of the most difficult yet important aspects of negotiations is to learn to detect inconsistencies or lies in other people’s accounts of the conflict. It’s difficult because most of us come from a place of relatively good will toward others, even in a competitive negotiation session… But not all of us.
If your child is in daycare, it’s likely that you’ll eventually disagree with something your childcare provider does or says. Recognizing when to say something, and how to approach the subject with your provider, will help maintain a positive relationship between you and your childcare provider and a healthy environment for your child.