The fight or flight response is a natural response to danger. Our bodies are created to fight or flee when danger is upon us, such as being attacked by a mountain lion. When faced with this kind of danger, the stress hormones pour into our body, causing some blood to leave our brains and organs and go into our arms and legs.
Understanding the cost of conflict is a major factor in persuading contesting parties to attempt conflict resolution and turn their conflict into collaboration. Stewart Levine in his excellent book “Getting to Resolution – Turning Conflict into Resolution” identifies four costs of conflict: direct costs, productivity costs, continuity costs, and emotional costs.
Conflict in a relationship is both normal and painful. In working with couples I have found that it’s the successful resolution of the conflict that strengthens the couple’s bond and brings them closer together. The resolution comes only by walking through the conflict and not around it.
Avoid getting in a power struggle. There is a noteworthy relationship between power and authority. Several times, as power increases, influence decreases and vice versa. Famous sociologist Erik Erikson noted that children turn out to be emotionally bothered when they hold power they cannot responsibly control.
Those who are adept at conflict resolution aim to find common ground while also helping the other person so see a different point of view. This blog post contains seven tips on how to resolve conflict so that you can solve problems without forfeiting personal and professional relationships.
In the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to “work out problems.” Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just don’t see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling really heard and understood.
More than two-thirds of the US population are followers of the Christian faith or one of its subgroups (Evangelical, Protestant, Methodist, etc.). Some people find it comforting to work through conflicts while also relying on the teachings of Jesus and the Bible. This blog post outlines some teachings and related Bible passages.