Nobody likes conflict, yet the most innocent words or actions can result in an argument, even with the best of intentions. Don’t wait for your next argument- read this article now to learn nine “Rules of the Road” for effective communication and conflict resolution in any relationship that are key to avoiding hitting “The Wall” which results in arguments and conflict.
Conflict comes with leadership as the sparks fly upward. If you don’t want to deal with conflict, leadership is not your thing. Being a leader is not about IF you will tackle conflict but HOW. In fact, no other ability (other than being able to get results) so shapes people’s careers as the ability to deal with conflict.
Hardly constructive, these exchanges resemble debates or ping-pong games and serve only to inflame emotions and entrench the participants. How do normally intelligent and articulate people fall into such unproductive patterns? And what can be done about it? The answers to both questions lie in the roles we instinctively and sometimes unconsciously adopt when confronted by conflict.
For the majority of the population, getting into conflict is either frightening or frustrating — or both. And, like many things that scare us, we try to avoid it in the future. Here’s the simple truth: if you want the problem or conflict to go away, you have to work to find a solution. That means facing your fears, your apprehensions, and the other person and working through the conflict.
Although similar to the “take it or leave it” ultimatum, it is more understated and less discernible to the uninitiated. Regrettably, it has become a familiar negotiation tactic by some attorneys in mediations. The purpose of this article is to both expose this ploy and discuss certain strategies and techniques that can be used to either prevent it altogether or minimize its consequences.
One of the most difficult yet important aspects of negotiations is to learn to detect inconsistencies or lies in other people’s accounts of the conflict. It’s difficult because most of us come from a place of relatively good will toward others, even in a competitive negotiation session… But not all of us.
If your child is in daycare, it’s likely that you’ll eventually disagree with something your childcare provider does or says. Recognizing when to say something, and how to approach the subject with your provider, will help maintain a positive relationship between you and your childcare provider and a healthy environment for your child.