It is easy to lock horns, sometimes with those near and dear, about opinions on favorite subjects…like religion, politics, and finances. This list is endless.
Understanding the cost of conflict is a major factor in persuading contesting parties to attempt conflict resolution and turn their conflict into collaboration. Stewart Levine in his excellent book “Getting to Resolution – Turning Conflict into Resolution” identifies four costs of conflict: direct costs, productivity costs, continuity costs, and emotional costs.
Conflict in a relationship is both normal and painful. In working with couples I have found that it’s the successful resolution of the conflict that strengthens the couple’s bond and brings them closer together. The resolution comes only by walking through the conflict and not around it.
Teaching kids to deal with conflict effectively and peacefully is perhaps the biggest challenge facing adults today. Children’s disagreements both at home and at school can be noisy, physical and psychologically hurtful. The approach to conflict resolution learned and practised in childhood often stays for life.
If your child is in daycare, it’s likely that you’ll eventually disagree with something your childcare provider does or says. Recognizing when to say something, and how to approach the subject with your provider, will help maintain a positive relationship between you and your childcare provider and a healthy environment for your child.
Avoid getting in a power struggle. There is a noteworthy relationship between power and authority. Several times, as power increases, influence decreases and vice versa. Famous sociologist Erik Erikson noted that children turn out to be emotionally bothered when they hold power they cannot responsibly control.