Teaching kids to deal with conflict effectively and peacefully is perhaps the biggest challenge facing adults today. Children’s disagreements both at home and at school can be noisy, physical and psychologically hurtful. The approach to conflict resolution learned and practised in childhood often stays for life.
Conflict is part of life. It is only when we as family members don’t have the skills to move through conflict that it becomes a problem. If you find yourself revisiting the same issues — “Why can’t you pick up after yourself?”, “Why can’t you help out more with the kids?”, or “Why can’t you two just get along for once?”— you may be living in a cantankerous home environment that has your whole family in the “deep end” of life.
If you’re always there to solve the problem for them, children will never learn how to problem-solve themselves. Instead of solving their problems for them, teach them how to resolve conflicts. Only after they’ve tried to solve the problem themselves are they allowed to come to you for help. Learn how in this blog post.
Michael Grose, the author of seven books for parents and a popular presenter who speaks to audiences in Australia, says that he has finally figured out the cause of sibling fighting: having multiple children. How can we help our children learn to resolve conflict? Find out in this blog post!